How not to "fly off the handle" when raising a family.

Losing one's temper these days is easy to do. The stress of caring for children, running a household and working can be overwhelming for all of us.  As a society, we are simply doing too much.  Our stress levels are rising and turning to medication to the numb the pain is the norm. Botanicals can provide comfort and help modulate the stress in our ever busy lives. A category of herbs called adaptogens helps keep us calm and steady when flying off the handle happens too often.  

1st! Ask yourself WHY you are stressed? What do YOU need?

Often we are too busy with our families and work even to ask what we need.   When you wake at 5:00 am {or ealier}, rush all day, consuming coffee to get through your morning and wine to wind down at night our bodies are in overdrive.  Our adrenals (endocrine glands that produce hormones like adrenaline and cortisol) are over stimulated placing us in a fight or flight response daily.  Taking time for you is imperative to your health.  I find a daily cup of caffeine free tea and adding adaptogens, along with these other tips, help monitors my stress and keep me calm even on the busiest days. 

How I maintain my sanity with kids

Exercise daily

Yoga, Pilates, walking, biking, running, lifting weights, dancing keeps my stress levels down.   Moving your body releases endorphins that make us "feel good", ask a friend to join you to help boost these feel good chemicals.  

Cut Back on Caffeine & Alcohol

Caffeine to pick us up and alcohol to wind us down.. it's a never ending roller coaster ride we create in our lives daily.  The more we can encourage a relaxation response in our bodies by treating it kindly, the less we will have outbursts of stress.  

Tip: Try adding a small amount of sea salt to water at 3 pm to aid your adrenals OR 1 tbs. of coconut oil to your caffeine free tea to help you get through the 3 pm crash.  

When craving alcohol, first add a good fat to your diet {like avocado, coconut oil or coconut butter} and second reach for a relaxing cup of tea or a calming tincture like motherwort to ease stress.  

Detox Bath

Epsom salt, made with naturally occurring minerals of magnesium and sulfate has numerous health benefits including easing aches, pains, and muscle cramps as well as reducing stress. 

Tip: Add 2 cups of Epsom Salt to your bath each night.  Also, take ten drops of Holy Basil Essential oil to 1/4 cup of milk, stir and add to your bath. Stay in the tub for at least 20 minutes.  Tulsi or Holy Basil can help with anxiety and adrenal fatigue.  Please dilute all essential oils in milk before adding to tubs.  

Add Magnesium Citrate to your diet

We burn through magnesium quickly so taking a daily supplement may ease stress and as a bonus- constipation.  Take Mg Citrate three days before your menstrual cycle will ease cramping and may reduce the amount of stress and tension you feel before day one. 

Tip: Take magnesium citrate 150mg (Klaire) nightly before bed.  300-1,000mg is acceptable. 


Tinctures, a liquid extract made from herbs, are very efficient when you do not want to take medications.  Some tinctures ease headaches, muscle strains, cramps, and stress.  Motherwort (Leonurus cardiaca) or mother's herb- is known to slow heart palpitations and ease rapid heart rate.  Used for all WOMEN'S ANXIETIES, motherwort is my go to remedy for when I feel a panic attack coming on.  [use caution with tinctures especially if you are taking antidepressant medication]

Add adaptogens to your diet

Adaptogens are a special category of herbs that help balance, nourish, heal and replenish the adrenals.  Some examples of adaptogens are ginseng, ashwagandha, holy basil, astragalus, and Rhodiola to name a few. [Caution use of adaptogens if you are taking antidepressants.]

Tip: Drink TG HERBALS Pick-me-up caffeine tea blend daily and take an adaptogen tincture daily.  Dr. Aviva Romm just came out with a new line of tinctures called Adrena.  See more HERE.

Drink caffeine free Tea

Relaxing herbs like chamomile, lemon balm, lemon verbena and lavender ease stress and lift spirits.  When I feel the tension rising in my home, I offer my children TG HERBAL Kiddie Calm with organic raw honey and I enjoy a cup as well. 

Keep your blood sugar steady

Add good fats like coconut oil, coconut butter, ghee, avocado's and avocado oil to each meal to keep your blood sugar steady and reduce the "hangry" feeling you get when you are hungry!

Alternative nostril breathing

Alternative nostril breathing or Nadi Shodhana is a simple, yet powerful breath to help ease tension and reduce stress.  One of my favorite breaths to help calm the mind,  I also have my children do a version I call "Bee Breathe" to help them ease tension.

Try this:

"Next time you find yourself doing too many things at once, or you sense panic or anxiety begin to rise, move through a few rounds of alternate nostril breathing. It’s a great way to hit the reset button for your mental state.

  1. Take a comfortable and tall seat, making sure your spine is straight and your heart is open.
  2. Relax your left palm comfortably into your lap and bring your right hand just in front of your face.
  3. With your right hand, bring your pointer finger and middle finger to rest between your eyebrows, lightly using them as an anchor. The fingers we’ll be actively using are the thumb and ring finger.
  4. Close your eyes and take a deep breath in and out through your nose.
  5. Close your right nostril with your right thumb. Inhale through the left nostril slowly and steadily.
  6. Close the left nostril with your ring finger so both nostrils are held closed; retain your breath at the top of the inhale for a brief pause.
  7. Open your right nostril and release the breath slowly through the right side; pause briefly at the bottom of the exhale.
  8. Inhale through the right side slowly.
  9. Hold both nostrils closed (with ring finger and thumb).
  10. Open your left nostril and release breath slowly through the left side. Pause briefly at the bottom.
  11. Repeat 5-10 cycles, allowing your mind to follow your inhales and exhales.

Steps 5-9 represent one complete cycle of alternate nostril breathing. If you’re moving through the sequence slowly, one cycle should take you about 30-40 seconds. Move through 5-10 cycles when you’re feeling stressed, anxious, or in need of a reset button." {}

The idea of caring for yourself first may seem selfish, but like Maya Angelou is quoted as saying. "If I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me." 

So I encourage you to put your oxygen mask on first, take care of YOU and your family will benefit. 

Warmly~ Tara Gregorio

Tara Gregorio

Tara Gregorio, Owner, and Founder of Tara Gregorio Pilates & Wellness is a seasoned veteran with 15 years experience in the health and fitness industry. A STOTT PILATES® Lead Instructor Trainer, Tara has led thousands of teachers- in-training through the certification process. Tara’s knowledge of Pilates, movement, and health is both deep and varied. In addition to teaching instructor level, equipment-based classes, she teaches workshops on topics ranging from anatomy and special populations to athletic conditioning and injury.

Tara’s clientele seek her out for her expertise in pre- and postnatal fitness, breast cancer recovery, osteoporosis, scoliosis, and injury rehabilitation. Tara has a B.S. in Fitness Management and is ACE, Pink Ribbon, STOTT PILATES and 200-hr Living Yoga Certified.

A holistic health practitioner, Tara is also a herbalist and homeopath with over seven years experience and training. Tara develops her own natural remedies, which she features in her product line, TG Herbals. TG Herbals, founded in 2014, is a diverse and growing line of tinctures, bug sprays, salves, and herbal tea blends. A mother of active, three-year-old twins, Tara also specializes in remedies for teething, colic, diaper rash, mastitis, insomnia, pelvic floor incontinence, and diastasis recti.

 Tara makes her home in Cold Spring, New York. She accepts clients in her studio for fitness, injury rehabilitation, and herbal consultations.  

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